Sunday, January 2, 2011

Day 326

Day 326


This 1st day of 2011, where do I spent my day? I spent my day 1st day of 2011 "Home" at my home church City Harvest. Delicated my 1st day of the year with my lord and saviour Jesus Christ.

I asked God for his plan for me this 2011

God will do his part once we delicate our plans into his hands

In Psalms 65:11

We will prosper in all aspects, in health, in relationship and in wealth as long as our soul prospers.

Usually I will spend my prayer time with lord praying and interceding for people God puts into my life. But this 1st day of the year, God says, you have to pray for your own needs and I will fulfill them.

@ Ask and it will be given to you

The first thing to do on the 1st day of 2011 we have to make this 1st decision.

1) To refuse to let your past defy your future.

As believers, because he Jesus Christ was being hung up on the cross 2000 years ago, he had hung yours curses onto the cross. Because he took away all the curses in life, we can be blessed.

I know and I truly knows, I am walking on the land of blessing through my saviour Jesus.

Dont allow your past failure determine your future. WE have choice in life. Don't allow fear and disappointment have a negative holdings towards your future.


I realised this, many people I've met or whom I have counselled faced this problem in their lives. They do not dare to hope. They fear to hope. They are afraid that the more they put their hope onto something, the greater the  chances they will face disappointment. But I tell you people, if you do not want to live a life of mediocrity, dare to hope. Hope is the your first step to changes towards excellence and as you hope, this hope in life can be transform into a very powerful and positive energy named Faith. Faith is the power of making visions and dreams into reality.


If you are a dreamer,
I have good news for you!

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1) God uses dreamers

In Acts 2:17
Faith is a spiritualised imagination!


and Albert Einstein said this : "Imagination is more important than knowledge"

Dream is the substance of life's great achievements.


There are 5 kinds of people


1. Those with no dreams


I have this question for you if you have no dreams.


What is your purpose in life? I dont give any credit to whatever recarnation and past life theory. ( I will blog on a topic on Re-carnation in my next post )

Every one has a different destiny in life. The moment you are born, you are destinated for a purpose. Because each day of our life, we are walking nearer and nearer towards death. There is a timeline for everyone. Each born for a seperate reason.

Even the birds screaming outside your window has its purpose in life, you have yours as well. 

You can have a dream, it is a gift given to you by God.

2. Those who exchanged Big wonderful dreams with Low dreams





Another question ?

Where is the richest place on earth ?











































A palace made of Gold?
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Its a Graveyard.

A place where dreams are forgotten,
a place where death buried their dreams with them.
A place where so many dreams were not fulfill.
Some of them have wonderful and great dreams, but they gave up and bring it to the grave.
A graveyard is a place filled with forgotten dreams.
It is a place riched with unfulfilled dreams and purposes people once lived.

Dont bring your dreams to the graveyard.
The death cannot bring their dreams to life anymore,

But as human like you and me who are alive,
we can have dream and make it come to past.

Remember the dreams you once have,
dont give them up.
Dont bury them in your graveyard because the society tells you that you cannot make it.

God says you can.
Re-ignite that Big dreams you used to have.


Dreams can be made, through your hands and God gave will power.
We dont give up because we have once believed we can.
We can still believe we can.


God wants your big forsaken dreams to come alive once again this year!


3. Those with wrong dreams

I want to illustrate this point a with the story of Taj Mahal
Do you know that this Magnificant Taj Mahal is a Tomb?
A tomb for the beloved wife of a king.
She is the best and most well-beloved wife of the king therefore when she died,
the king wanted to build a magnificant tomb for his beloved wife.

He puts the coffin of his wife in the middle of this place where the Taj Mahal was constructed. He loves his wife so much and the wants the Taj Mahal to be surrounding the coffin of his wife.

The king took many many years to build the Taj Mahal.
Years past and the beautiful Taj Mahal was finally constructed.
As time passes, his pain for the lost of his beloved wife eased.

One day when he was admiring this magnificant building he has built,
he tripped and fell upon an ugly looking wooden block of something.

He ordered his man to threw this wooden box away.
That was the bones of his beloved wife.
The king had forgotten he build the Taj Mahal for his wife.

Dear people, many times we really work too hard for the wrong reasons. We had been climbing so so hard for a dream we taught that is good for us. We've forgotten why we conceived that dream from the start. We start to work on wrong motives in life.

Like a marriage, you get married to your other half because you love them, you want to be with them, care for them, stand on firm in life with them. But as time passes by, she grew old, no longer as attractive as she was 20 years ago. Her hands haggled, hair grew grey. You've forgotten you were the one who once held her young hands and told her to be your wife because you love her.

Yes everyone should work hard in life. We should be always climbing up this ladder of success. But we really have to be careful when we are heading in the wrong direction, you won't want this to happen in your life, climbing so hard and realised that you have landed your ladder on a wrong wall.

There are very obvious ways to see if you are on the correct "wall" where you land your ladder. The 3 gifts and signs from God when you are on the right Wall,
1) You will have joy even when you are in amid of a storm. Because the right direction in life gives you Joy and that Faith in believe, you will see joy in light at the end of your path.

2) You will experience peace. You can rest after a hard day of work, you can sleep soundly at night, you will have the peace in you.

3) The excitement on work you are doing. When you are on the right track, it seems like you are so excited in making the impossible happen, making mircales come to past.


4. Those with Vague dreams

Those with undecisive and unplanned dreams. You have a dream, you have a goal in life, but you are doing nothing about it. I have learned this, those dreamers who made things happened, they have specific and clear dreams.

You cannot dream to be a multi millionaire while you dont have any plans to become one. Your dreams need to be clear. You need to plan, you need figures, you NEED to know what exactly do you want. 

You need to describe as clearly as possible. You need to have an attainable dream. When I committed all my Company incentives convection trips to God. I make plan. I ask God for his favour. I check my plans with God. I draw my timeline. I clock my figures on time. I work on specific short-term Goals to achieve the long-term Goals and further nearer and nearer towards a BIG DREAM God planted in me.  

You know my life long dream right? A dream to be a giver. A giver who has the ability to give cost is not a factor. A giver who has the ability to give at any cost.


5. Those with God's Dream

You know something, in some backdated post during November I prayed to God about my career in wealth management. He showed this to me, Ecclesiastes 11:1 Invest in life. This is the same message Pastor shared about. I had my confirmation from Pastor, I know I've conceived a God's Dream to change and transform lives of people using the genes of my career. Protect and love. We can invest. Invest in life and not in death.

You will know it if that Dream which is conceived in you, Is it a God's Dream ? God's dream is Powerful. Joyful. Difficult. yet it can hold and push you on greater in life.

Ask God: what does He wants you to do this 2011 ? Ask him and he will show them to you ever clearer than before. He can. Because he shown it to me and it will be clearer and clearer as I believed in his promises towards me.

I walked up to the Altar yesterday when Pastor Kong called for an Alter-call. I teared and thank God, he just know me so well, inside-out totally. I thank him as I received my this powerful dream from God. A God's dream, he says me :

My daughter, I've given you the power to shine and to transform lives. Touch all the people I am going to send to you. You are going plant dreams into people, give hope, teach them how to invest in life and not death. Choose life and not destructions. Your career is from me, you will be the head and not the tail, above and not beneathe. Sow all your appointments with all your heart with love, and you will rejoice during harvest. My favour is with you, I your Father will grow your appointments. Don't fear nor doubt, just believe. 


When I bless you, bless it back to your brothers and sisters in Christ. They need you, for you are all one body in Christ. 

Take it higher and soar like Eagles


2011 we can be higher

Message abstructed from partial sermon of Pastor Kong Hee and Pastor B.Chaw

Friday, December 31, 2010

鄭秀文 - 上帝早已預備 (HD Live)


This is a song of thanksgiving. Thanking Jesus, because he died for us, we can get away from all the curse in life of negativity, death, fear, sickness and walk towards his land of blessing. As believers, we cry not because we are sad, all those tears are the tears of joy and gratefulness. We are really touched by him. Jesus, he is real. He is not a god to idolise, he is a real God, someone who really cares about you and someone who can change your life. He changed mine. He became my best friend, my beloved Father, he walks with me and lift me up on the heaviest storms in life. He died for me so I can get blessed.
I don't need any luck in life.
I don't need any fengshui, nor whatever divine fortune telling.
With just Jesus in me, I can be more than what is of the world.
 Greater is he who is in me than of the world.
Thank you Jesus.
I love you.

Day 325

Day 325
The Last Day of 2010

A sum up of the year.

The few important moments I had in 2010
Yes I went to Bible college School of Theology 2010 and it changed my life.
I accept Jesus as my savior and delicated my life to serve him as Lord.
I went through my water baptism
I was given a 2nd chance in life
A new life to live again,
born again with the new heart Jesus gave me.
My amazing Journey begins with a new heart.

I had my right hand holding on to Jesus and my left holding to his.
I love him so much and I couldn't bear to let this man go.

Soon it was Asia Conference 2010


I was totally involved in the Asia Conference 2010 serving delegates from all around the world.
I was in the Hospitality PR team
and
was one of the violinist from Mill Orchastra for the last day of Asia Conference.
An Amazing life transforming conference with workshops like:
Managing workplace through the word of God 
Wealth management 
and
many many others.

Dr AR Bernard blew me off TOTALLY with his core values believes.

Asia Conference 2010 came to an end after a week. 

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I went to Bali
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came back with this:
on top of my bible school, music teaching job and wealth management career,
Sun Vale Avenue was born

I went through intensive stretching.
The stretching of God for a greater purpose in life.
I prayed for an enlargement of capcity.
God created that situation in my life and my ability was enlarged through these.

My prayers were answered.
God never leave prayers unanswered.
So sometimes, we got to be careful what we pray for.

During the midway of bible school,
I prayed for an enlargement of my heart.
I asked God to widen my heart with love.

God answered my prayers once again.
I went to hardcore brokenness.

I went through death strike pain,
I learned to obey God.
Obeying God is painful and heartaching.

God puts me in a situation to enlarge my heart.
A heart to give without asking for any returns.

The first time in my life it was downpouring so heavily
I cried non-stop for 12 hours.
The tears just wouldnt stop.

I surrenderred the most precious thing in my life to God,
I left the man I loved so much and handed him to God.

For the next 3 days I obeyed God,
I seeked and ask for his grace to overcome this pain,
and asked God for his mercy to bring the man I love through this as well.

The holy spirits is a wonderful comforter.
He shown hope in my life and gave me visions of God's plan.
I quiet down and received peace from the spirit of God.

God sliced me,
he sliced selfishness off me and he gave me selflessness.
He taught me how to love like Jesus.
Sacrifies.

My heart was enlarged,
my love turns selfless.
I received abundance of Joy with this selfless love God placed in line as blessings for me to pick up.
Thank you Jesus
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I started my outreach and mission field to China with Pastor and Eve
I was blown away once again how God works
Totally speechless of how God uses me to touch broken souls he wants to reach.
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 Very Soon it is my final Lap in bible School.
I was pushing it on.
The most difficult part in bible school is not about learning the bible.

It is about what God wants you to do.
Through bible school,
I released unforgiveness, bitterness, pain, sorrows, resendment, cursed of witchcrafts, generations curses into the hand of Jesus.

I was set free.
My heart received total freedom.

I forgave people whom I never even thought I've hated them.
But God knows.
He wants me to forgive them and bless them.

I forgave the man who hurt me so badly, his mum and I forgave Mel.
In the first place I dont even know why I hated them.
I started praying for them,
praying for blessings to rain onto their life.
I started praying for Mel's career and her fruitful love life.
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Very soon, I graduated from Bible school
and life continues to change.
I changed a new company and I accepted a new challenge God prepared in my life for me.

I took on new challenges in life and I know my authority I have in Jesus.
He gave me my authorities and I am going to make full use of it.

God is someone so close to me,
a father who is never selfish,
a father who is always willing to give.

Jesus is my best friend,
he knows my past my present and he holds my future.

Holy Spirit is my best teacher,
best comforter
and best interpreter in ministry.

My life,
I delicated to the trinity
Father.Spirit.Son

I will hold on to you as I conquor uncertainty,
bring hope to people,
give,
love,
and care

I cannot accomplish this mission without Father.Spirit.Son
I live my life serving only you Lord.
Speak and I will move,
show me the way and led me there.

Thank you Father for being so real in my life.
You are there
Always there so ready for me.

I love you Father,
I love you Jesus,
I love you Holy Ghost.

I delicated 2010 as sweet aroma to your altar.
With praise and thanks giving
I have accomplished much this year.

2011
I want to love you even more!
Hold on to you even more!
Walk with me Jesus,
Like what you've told me,
Yes, Greater things have yet to come.

All things work for Good for those who loves God called according to his purpose.
For you whom ask through the son,
He who is the author of all will do Exceedingly and Abundantly well for those who ask.
Ask and it will be given to you,
Seek and you shall find it,
Knock and it will be open to you.

This is my Father's promise to me and he said:

Heaven and Earth will fade but my words will stay the same,
He will do something new for you today.

Thank you Father for giving me a year full of trials which shaped my character, and held me even closer to you Lord.

I've sowed in 2010.
Grow my seeds I've left in your hands.

and Lastly

Thank you City Harvest Church


Thank you God for City Harvest Church where you restore my dreams and put it higher.

Something Stupid - Frank Sinatra

Kelly Grace.

The Beatles - I Want To Hold Your Hand

Thursday, December 30, 2010

How come?

How come no one ever did this to me?
Or how come no one dare to do this to me?
Or ask me?
Or prosposed this?
Or whatever?
Am I too heavy? Cannot be right.....

Seraphina

Seraphina is my customer from Sun Vale Avenue.
She is so real and one young sweet thing.
She came down my shop and gave me a card of my Horoscope in which she drew.
Awww . .
Thats really lovely
Thanks Sera!


Friendster

I was actually doing this

I went to look through my old Friendster Testimonies guess what I've found.

Roy
Roy2004T05:56:41Z ( I cant imagine he used the word SWEET) whhaaaaaa!!!!



a very sweet girl.. and one who certainly
knows how to present herself.. she
leaves a deep impression as an
individual with a jovial nature and a kind
heart.. an interesting person to talk to
with endless topics..

 
This is more like the Roy I know
 
Roy2004T15:23:22Z



learning to be contented wif oneself is
hardly enough to be satisfied wif..
becus one cannot progress far without
emotional support.. i guess everyone
haf their own set of problems.. u'r ability
to be optimmistic.. it totally outshines
any of which i've come across.. i would
say tad you are vulnerable.. but yet u'r
someone who's able to hold out for u'r
own stand.. wif u'r own set of principles..
well do try to share u'r load abit more.. 1
person carrying a burden as great
would only seem a chore.. well a gentle
word of advice for the overworked you..
open up a lil.. keep tad attitude.. tad
optimmisim and tad smile.. tad
contagious and overwhelming smile..
but share more than tad.. share your
mind..

 
Terry Tan ( OMG this is really funny )
Terry 2004 T17:38:02Z



Wow what a god send girl... That the
best Dear i ever get making me so
complete in life and lost of words for
her...........Well this new chapter for us
will be a fulfilling one and i definitely will
cherish u with everything i have and
never make u feel regret of reopening
this fresh and exciting relationship of
us..........we will support each other
through thick and thin no matter what
kind of problem arise. i not gonna leave
u alone to face diffcult situation
anymore, put ur trust in me and keep
with me no matter wat...............DEAR
OUR LOVE WILL LAST TILL END OF
TIME..........MUACK MUACK :) FROM
UR BELOVED DAR DAR


I am going to show him this so I can threaten him to show maybe his wife or something. Fwahahhaaaa.....

Arvin Ho
Arvin.mq 2004 T06:54:57Z


Seven - shes a hyperactive, cheerful,
funny, daring and direct person....i
seldom see this "kind" of species
around den suddenly u and ur frens
(almost same character) came and
somehow enlightened me tat such
person exist, nv hesitate to do
anything u want - such courage - if
only i have half of it, i really like ur
directness (unlike other gals or even
guys) nv fail to speak ur mind, and a
good listener who give good advice -
she often guide me on some human-
relations handling (aka
communication with pple and handling
situations) which i'm really bad
at...Thanks for helping me, i know i
am a blockhead sometimes...can;t
help also....
Sorry this testimonial came so late......
Took me more than 15 mins to
write...haha...
Lastly hope u can fulfill ur dreams- ur
so talented and hardworking..i believe
the day will come.....show the traits of
Leo, believe in urself Lady


Ok la, we went to sing KTV yesterday and you dont look like autistic kid anymore. Imagine last time in school they say you're an autistic kid.

Huixian
Huixian2004 15T05:41:37Z



Hey,Kaiqi...You and Holly will be my
very best friends forever.You really
associates well with all your friends
and a very good personalities and
characteristics and I think you are
also a rather straightforward
person.Anyway,our friendship will keep
rolling*:)


So super Huixian

This is Victor my dude long time buddy Victor never fail me. ARgh, I feel old now, Cause we have there for each other for like 12 years my god.

Victor2006 03T11:14:51Z



I'm always glad to be around for you bro, just as you were always near me. I'm just a call away should you ever need me :) Cheers!
 
Cant find Joze's.
 
Holly dont do such things de. lolx.
 
Thats about it.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Day 323/4


Day 323


Tuesday ( Superb weather! ) Cool and Windy Temp 24. Yes This is Singapore.


I've decided to sing K-box. So I did, accompanied by arv. I realised singing for 2 hours is not shiok enough, I had been craving for KTV since last Saturday. I think I want to KTV again next Tuesday if situations permits.

Arv and I went to the K-box at scape-park after our lunch at Marche, initially we wanted to go for a K-Lunch, meaning KTV and lunch combined. Dropped that idea and we headed to Marche at 313 orchard.

I've been always a very spontaneous person by nature. While I was in the queue for French Rossties ( The potato potato thing neh ) I was comtemplating on the marking of it. It looks really easy somehow.


After Lunch we headed down to K-box scape park. I have not been singing KTV for the longest time.The last time to K-suites or Lunar for KTV were with the Big players Sean Latip, Alfred and the other half of Fulala's gang.



Economcial people like myself go to this Family Karaoke Place call KBox.
Dont ask me who's that baldie, this picture was taken from yahoo image search
P.S: I miss hearing my smelly sing his out of tune songs. He and his few songs I can remember. He is one man whom I sang the most repeated SONGS with ever in my life.
like at least a few hundred times kind.

You know, K-box don't have remote controller anymore. Their controllers are like touch screen I-pads. User-unfriendly to me, or ok I am dumb, I don't really knows how to use it. Guess, I am too used to controllers.
The room was so freaking hell cold even when I was with a cardigan. I have the thought of snatching arvin's jacket for a moment but I suppose that make be kind of evil also. The whole room was like a freezer. I went out of the room and demanded for a glass of hot water and told the lady that the room was so freaking cold. She gave me a blanket instead.

Just when I was warmed up and in mood to sing, 2 hours is up and the last song was played/done. '.@ Seriously we should have just continued singing for another hour boy. Then I wouldn't have done the next step after KTV where I headed for Happy Hour Beer!

Had 4 mugs of Beer at the Alley, met up with Ian and av left to catch his other group of Friends for dinner. Left Alley at about 7 and went shopping around when the movie timeslots stood me up.

I wanted to get something for Dad. I walked into Ed Hardy. lolx. Dad will scream if I get him to wear that. I really like the top. Ok, not the front but the back of it. I decided to get it.

I gave it to arv as his Christmas pressie whatever cum birthday cum thankgiving whatever, I haven remembered giving him any gift for so long. What was the last thing I got for him? I cant even remember.

He is a really nice boy, good looking, caring, kind-hearted young chap but kind of blockhead er most of the time. Or maybe just because he is with me and always giving in to me all the time. Ya hor, one of these days, we go out again, you plan i say nothing, how about that? I should start praying for him too, God give him a really nice girl to fall in love with, feel the real stuff, brain freeze tian tian de. *sweetness*

Random* Alot of people told me this taiwanse drama * Xia yi zhan Tian huo by Vaness wu is very nice. But the more I watch the more I think Mike looks like Vaness wu. Errrr . .  . . and I realised I cant stand that drama anymore. Sorry Vaness.

This is mike.



Headed down to Esplande for a stroll when I abandon my meetup with Cy at Ritz carlton. Kind of lazy to continue drinking at Chuhuly bar. I walk down to place where my smelly used to film me on his HD cam. I think those undigested nor edited tapes were thrown dont where already. I guess in my lifetime I will never get to see that edited MV smelly shot for me.

And I saw this
Looks like Giant tennis balls floating on the water
There's just sooo many of them,
I smiled walking the place we used to walked 2 years plus ago.
He was still with M5 back then.
Time really flies
Looking at the same place,
but it is Qu'lia

The surrounding changes, people changes, MBS is there, lights shooting everywhere,
but the happiness of revisiting this place remains.

One day when you revisit this place.
Will you still smile when you think of me?

Who determines these happiness of memories?
I guess my daddy God is the one.

I went home after esplanade to fry the potato rostties.
Spend an hour slicing and stredding the potatoes,
ended up with my "Chao Ta" burned rostties

= Experiement Failed =


I have come out with 2 wishlist after today's outing with arv.

(1) I want a frying pan, just a normal one will do, I dont need any what Tefle whatever filifala brands. Mustafa also can.

(2) I want a handphone charm, I wanted to get it yesterday while I was waiting for arv, you know those capsules machines

I wanted to "turn" a hello kitty handphone charm,
but I dont have 3 dollars coins,
and I am afraid if I change my 50 bucks with the drinks stall auntie she will scold me.
* I am still timid in a way hahaa ~.~

You know who does the best in pleasing me with such toys I really loved so much?
Look at all my pokemon collections.
He has to be Terry.
He is really sensitive, observant, caring.
But too bad I dumped him 5 years ago due to my Big Ego.
I cannot stand infidelity at all, not even a single little bit, even a small white lie is considered cheating to me - back then.

I dont have a forgiving heart at all back then.
If you slap me on my left cheek, I will slap you on both cheeks in return plus a mega meaty double combo kick up-down.
Make sure you die flat on the ground not moving before I leave you alone.

If you have known me that long enough,
you will see the amount of changes I made,

A change of new heart.
Smelly, I am still questioning why must it be you?

I once told God this : God, I deserved a better man right? Show me. 
Then ur image flashed across.
My first reaction and the word I spoke to God was : You must be kidding me.
I said I deserve a better man, why must you give me trouble-maker?

I dont want him,
someone else?
better?

Then you again.
you again.
you again.
you again.

Enough.
I am not going to ask God this question anymore. 
































































Day 324

I was in my lala land when my cellphone rang early this morning,
my buddy called and woke me up - Very AD-HOCLY
K: Kaiqi wake up, I am driving to your place right now.
Me: Still blur, what you want?
K: Lets go swimming now! Go and brush your teeth, no need to shower, he knows I take super long shower.

I haven even agreed he hung up the line.
I woke up and brush my teeth,
he called again.
Im downstairs, come down now.
There I went swimming
I never like to swim in the day partly owning to the sun.
I dont want to get expose too much to the sun.
and I dont like to swim in cold water.

Swimming in the night is different,
warm water is so sweet at night.

Premature aging when you get expose to the UV
Me and my customised towel from BBG211


I have got really cool goggles

Professional swimming and water polo goggles.
Thou I am not a professional swimmer,
but who cares

I had been hearing complains for the whole day.
Complaining about his wife,
about his greatest mistakes about marrying his wife blah blah,
suck it in be a man,
you are the one who make that choice,
then live with it.

I understand he is living in agony facing someone he cannot stand a single bit anymore.
Well his wife who is my friend as well, I know she feels nothing better as well.
Sad to hear all these happening to all the people who are close to me.

You know when you get married to someone whom you cannot see a future in tolerating him/her for a lifetime,
dont go and waste other people's time and hurting both yourself and the other party.

Even the slightest convo can strike a war,
a minor remark can cause your irritant.
She is not the one,
not now,
and definately not in the future.

Somehow people always feel that things will change once they setter down.
Sorry that doesnt happen.
Even if everything is perfectly good now,
it doesn't mean it will be when 2 start to stay together as a family.
A couple must have the courage and love to walk through all the storms in life,
to encourage to love and to be accepting.

A marriage needs commitment of 2 parties.
Each like the left and right arms.
When either arm is injured, the other will feel the burden and pain too.

If you do not love him or her enough,
dont get married.
Love is the only substance that brings 2 hearts closer and eventually merges as one.

Love is the only thing that changes negative to postive,
create breakthroughs from problems.
bind brokenness together,
hold relationship tight.

The reason most marriages fails and bring the whole family into agony,
they misunderstood responsiblity and love in whole.

You can be responsible for a moment,
but
it is the love that causes your responsiblity to be consistant.

Take an example: I love my dog,
I am consistant.
I shower him,
walk him,
plays with him,
brings him to the vet,
cut his hair,
feed him,
cuddle him.

Not a very good example now,
my dog dont know how to scold me, nag at me etc. lolx

Anyway, you get what I mean right.
Think with your toes la and try harder if you still dont get it.