Day 225

Day 225

Forgiveness

a) Accepting people is not forgiving them

We accept each other because we are acceptable in spite of blemishes that sometimes make it hard. Some people come to us with a cluster of unacceptable qualities; but we accept them as our friends anyway. We spot fne people slouching behind a ton of disagreeable traits. Therefore we accept them of what they are, or how they can be as friends.

It is much easier being normal friends than a lifetime partner. Because we are accepting and we do not wish to live or face this person 24/7 for many decades. In times when a certain friend call, you dont like his or her attitude or behaviour you have a choice to not see this person so often. But for a lifetime partner, it is responsibility and of course love. The accountability of a vow to learn to love flaws, for true love covers all flaws.

Sometimes acepting a person can feel alot like forgiving. But it is not the same. The difference between accepting and forgiving is very simple. 

We accept people beacuse of they treat us good and they are good people. But we forgive people for the bad things they did to us. We accept people for the good and we forgive them for the bad they did. 

In times we were hold account to hurts we do not deserve. A broken promise from someone you love. A trust from someone whom you thought will protect you but ended up leaving you with the most horrible emotional scar in your heart.  How can we perform this spiritual surgery inside your heart?

Forgiveness = forget

When you cannot forget, it is not forgiveness. It is accepting. In the past when I was hurt so badly by a man I trust, I love with all my heart, even when I say I forgive him with my mouth. My heart is never healed. I struggled and cry, I realised I was only accepting, it is not forgiveness.

I've learn total forgiveness and is constantly blessing him with my continual love. I am not being super gracious, I am doing for the good of myself. If I do not make that choice to forgive, I might live my whole in agony.This is not foolish, this is not dumb. Because of this power of forgiveness I was set free of struggles, pain and hurt. How to forget the hurt? How to heal our own heart? To heal your hurt, you have to face the brokenness again and make a choice to release it.

Don't do the escape theory or the numb your heart. Dont use the life buoy theory, that will never solve your agony. It may be a long time hurt that continually whipping you, it may be your dad or mum who had hurt you, or it may be yourself, probably you did really bad stuffs and you cannot forgive yourself. 

If you realise that your cannot find your peace or the real source of joy. Your heart is so harden up to protect yourself. But I am encouraging all my readers right now, you can be happy because you deserve to be happy. You cannot lie to yourself, dont be so difficult on yourself. Even thou life is really tough, but you have a choice to walk in joy or walk in misery. Make a choice.

WE only live once, dont let regrets be your stumbling block. Dont let pride and ego hinder you to walk in happiness. Dont be afraid. All my dear friends, conquer your fear. Be courages, face your fear and dont let regrets be your pain.

If a small and common looking frail girl like me can learn this logic, you should know it too. I love all of you guys, please dont stumble yourself with unforgiveness.